Life has a cruel way of showing you that people are not supposed to be in your life. No matter how hard you try to keep certain relationships alive they eventually fade out. Not by the fault of your own, but because you saw more potential in the other person then they saw for themselves. It is not your job to show someone how amazing they could be, it is not your job to mold them. Your job is to be the best you and promote them, let them know you support them and are their biggest fan.

Majority of women seem to forget that men are not malleable, meaning they are not playdoh. Just because they are in your life now, doesn’t mean they are meant to be there forever! We are giving husband privileges to “fuckboys,” because we think that we can make them grow up. Well I have learned that no matter how much and how deep you love love someone, it is never going to be enough to make them be who you want them to be. Sadly, if you have to mold someone they probably aren’t for you to begin with.

Now “husband privileges” is another post, so stay tuned, but as far as giving yourself fully and completely, emotionally, to a man who does not value you, or to a man who does not care ; It hurts! So sidebar….let me give you some insight into my life.

I dated a few different people for 4 plus years and a lot of times when things ended, someone never had the common decency to end things. Although I saw things going downhill, the makeup to breakups over periods of months or even weeks, the disrespectful and hurtful comment and then some, I still thought we could fix it. Through all that, as a woman, you still think you can save things. You hope, wish, and pray that he/ she will wake up and finally see the error of their ways and want to make it work. You have invested so much time in that person, so you of course try to make something, out of ,apparently, nothing.

So after devoting however much time into the relationship, and no real breakup, I found myself feeling really single. Apparently couples don’t break up anymore. One person just acts like an a$$ until the other simply is fed up and walks. Thank you social media and texting for this lack of communication that has evolved.

Anyway, with all that said and done, many times I was left feeling really mad, hurt, confused, bitter, etc. Eventually you realize that that’s what cowards do. A coward cannot face truth, a coward takes the easy way out. Yes, he would have hurt me, but this was much worse! Now, I already knew we were doomed, and plenty of times prior to this is was ready to call it quits, so it’s not that I was completely shocked.

Do you deserve more than that as their partner, as their what could have been potential wife or husband, mother or father to their future children? Yes! After all, you have spent time envisioning this life with them. You have built a life with this person, possibly cohabited, shared the deepest parts of yourselves with one another, so you absolutely deserve more than simply just a slow fade out. BUT you will probably never get the closure you are looking for. God has something better planned for you. The man or woman that God has in store for you will show you why things never worked out with anyone else. As much as it sucks you have to accept the fact that he/she isn’t worth the tears, isn’t worth the resentment. They really aren’t worth shit, so neither is their apology. Accept the facts for what they are. Learn to accept the apologies you will never get.