You ever thought you finally had your shit together? That maybe you finally have all the pieces to the puzzle right where you need them to? That maybe, just maybe, this time around your hard work will finally pay off, only to find out that all you’ve worked to build is falling apart, and not even slowly! It’s falling all the fucken way apart, quickly. What do you do then?

I mean, duh, your first response is to feel broken. Or maybe your response is to get angry, lash out maybe, disparity, annoyance, etc. Where do you begin to pick up the pieces? No, but seriously where do you start? I guess it doesn’t matter where, as long as you do it. No one said this journey would be easy. But holy shit!

I read an article the other day about being a “underachiever” and being happy about it. Some people can genuinely be happy with “just enough.” Am I even qualified to be ok with that? Honest answer, NO! Wishful answer: Absolutely.  Now in retrospect dating SUCKS! That has always been an issue, and not for just me. Moving sucks! That’s a no duh. Break ups suck, regardless of length of relationship. Switching jobs or searching for new jobs, stressful af!!! Put them all in the same pile simultaneously and you have a cluster fuck of issues.

Honestly, the easiest thing right now would be to throw the towel in, and resort to old tactics. Instead I think it’s sooo important to put all that’s going on into perspective. For me that mean evaluating all the issues, seeing which are actually relevant and at times seeking counsel from my friends. Sometime friends can help you see something that you don’t. There are times when you are blowing something out of proportion and don’t even realize until someone else helps you see why it irrelevant. I don’t want “yes men” around me. I need people who will be honest with me. Let me know when I’m wrong, how I’m wrong and call me out on my bullshit. Now get this straight, not all of your friends will do that, and hell, not all my friends do it. The ones who do, you know who you are, I appreciate your existence on my journey.

This journey is tough. Sometime we get in our own way of success, love, growth, etc. It is more about trying to figure out what you’re doing and correct it then about getting it right all the time. We mess up, we are human. The only thing that matters is figuring out what went wrong and how to avoid traveling down that path again. Drink a glass of wine and relax. Stay up!!