How can I change my attitude and the way it relates to the events that happen in my life? I have been in this mental space lately of really trying to delve deep and see how I am getting in my own way of my success. Not to say I haven’t been successful thus far in my life, whatever your definition of success is. My definition of success might vary from others, but I’ll feed you from my spoon so you can see how I feel I’m succeeding. I define success as being able to define my purpose, living in alignment with my purpose and my journey, living contently and not in fear of outside factors. Understanding my habits in creating success and how I allow external factors to misguide my mind, my actions and my reactions is my main focus these days.

HOW DO I CHANGE MY ATTITUDE AND THE WAY IT RELATES TO EVENTS I EXPERIENCE?

I have realized that certain internal thoughts, and the way I process them, are a major component in how I live. I listened to a podcast recently about “Self-talk” and it truly opened my eyes to the way I psych myself out sometimes thinking something is not for me because of the challenges. I think sometime we allow trials and challenges defeat us and we take that as a sign that maybe the thing we are striving for isn’t meant for us, when in actuality there will always be challenges. If it was easy everyone would be successful. Continued success is not for the fare hearted or the lazy. It requires work, endurance, resilience, determination and heart.

I once heard someone say, “Thoughts lead to feelings…feelings lead to actions/responses…responses lead to results.”

There are going to be times you have to realize your “Self-Talk.” You are forced to go through a process where you either edit your thoughts and get rid of them or learn to simply accept them. This process involves more than your own thoughts, it involves how those around you influence your thinking.  There are times the people who are around you are envious of your moves, your success and for whatever reason they feel the need to throw shade on your success or transitions. Re-evaluate your friends. How many of your thoughts and friends are in alignment with what you say you want to be and how many are destructive to your purpose.  You are in your own way! Manage your own self and develop the right habits. It is not easy to find balance and synergy, but it is important to your success that you do.

Aside from thoughts and friends/family, you also need to assess what do you spend your time doing. Are those things conducive to what you’re trying to be, grow into, do etc. The perfect way to do that is to keep track of your time and see where you are wasting time and how you can allocate time to ways to build something, rather than wasting it.

Your success isn’t going to follow the same recipe as another’s success. You have to follow your own path, create your own journey, and get to your definition of success. Do not be swayed by others definition of success. Alter your habits, your inner circle, you mental structure, your time and figure out what is better suited to your journey.

Like they say in school, “KEEP YOUR EYES ON YOUR OWN PAPER!”