At 16 I assumed I’d be rich, married with 1.5 kids by 28 and clearly I was overzealous because that’s not the case. Not even close! I live comfortably, I travel often,  and I currently have no kids. I have moved 4 times these past 3 years. According to studies and many statistics 1/3 of people in their 20s move every year. I have to agree! I need to experience different areas so I can decide what area better reflects my lifestyle and needs. I don’t want just one version of society shaping my perceptions. I need to experience different ways of living, thinking and doing. I think it helps me be a better-rounded individual.

Apparently, most 20 something’s go through an average of seven jobs before the time they reach 30. Lord knows I have not found the one job that is my passion, other than writing and being creative, that keeps my attention. If the job doesn’t fulfill my needs I’m out! Your 20’s are about figuring out where you want to be, what kind of job you want to grow with. Think about it this way…You grow up having your parents tell you what to do. You get to high school and you can make a few more decisions for self, but still guided by your parents. In college you get tons more freedom to decide the paths you want to walk, but unfortunately you’re tied down to one major in the collegiate system. How do you really know that’s what you want to do FOREVER, never having done it before?? Legit…

This is my time of freedom. I’m not tied to anything. I can move at the drop of the dime if I wanted to, whether it be for a change of scenery or for a better job, a luxury married people are not able to do so easily. Feel things out. Life is trial and error. These are the fun parts of life, experimenting and experiencing.

So maybe you can’t just walk into Givenchy and buy those new boots or new bag, Michael Kors might not even be in your price range. Hell, Calvin Klein might not even be in your price range and you might be sporting a Steve Madden bag even, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Life gets better. Let’s be real, most people can’t simply walk into those types of stores and buy what they want, but we sure think others can and we can’t.

Realistically life is like a bag of jelly-belly jelly beans. When you think  you’ve grabbed a pineapple flavored white jelly bean and it turns out to be coconut. Seriously You die a little bit every time it happens. Meaning sometimes you think something is one way  or will be a certain way and in reality it’s something completely different. Now while it sucks to be hyped for that pineapple jellybean and to get stuck with coconut, things could be worse. You could have picked licorice. Take things with stride.

At this point in life we are trying to find balance between needs and wants. It takes time, your not a failure if you haven’t gotten it right yet. Eventually you will get there. Pep talk complete…You’re welcome!